Comments on: I googled an old girlfriend today. https://habitablezone.com/2020/10/22/i-googled-an-old-girlfriend-today/ Mon, 06 Apr 2026 12:03:37 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: RL https://habitablezone.com/2020/10/22/i-googled-an-old-girlfriend-today/#comment-45718 RL Fri, 23 Oct 2020 03:08:19 +0000 https://www.habitablezone.com/?p=84865#comment-45718 One of my closest friends in college was a smart girl majoring in Geology- no romance there, but we were close friends- always hanging out together... At the end of college she married my room-mate I soon after got married as well. We drifted apart, our lives diverged- she had her career and had two sons fairly soon after her marriage, I had grad school ... I reached out a couple of times but we both had so many things going on... 20 years later I was reminiscing about my college days with my wife, and I brought up some of the crazy stories about adventures I had with my old friend... My wife said I should look her up and say hi... It didn't take long and I found her facebook page... only to see it had become a memorial page. She had died a year or so before, apparently after a long brutal fight against breast cancer. It knocked the breath out of me... She didn't even make it to 50- life is so fucking unfair. One of my closest friends in college was a smart girl majoring in Geology- no romance there, but we were close friends- always hanging out together…
At the end of college she married my room-mate I soon after got married as well. We drifted apart, our lives diverged- she had her career and had two sons fairly soon after her marriage, I had grad school … I reached out a couple of times but we both had so many things going on…

20 years later I was reminiscing about my college days with my wife, and I brought up some of the crazy stories about adventures I had with my old friend… My wife said I should look her up and say hi…

It didn’t take long and I found her facebook page… only to see it had become a memorial page. She had died a year or so before, apparently after a long brutal fight against breast cancer.

It knocked the breath out of me…

She didn’t even make it to 50- life is so fucking unfair.

]]> By: podrock https://habitablezone.com/2020/10/22/i-googled-an-old-girlfriend-today/#comment-45717 podrock Fri, 23 Oct 2020 03:05:53 +0000 https://www.habitablezone.com/?p=84865#comment-45717 Had to. 'Cause I had this dream, she clothed in white, face painted to match. Creepy, but she was sweet, a kiss on my cheek and an offer to help with cooking. And I rarely dream about her, despite our short lived but very close orbit. She hasn't appeared in an obit since I checked last. Two years ago I found out a former friend, a best mate, with whom I'd had an epic falling out, hadn't had any coms for decades, died homeless, a two sentence obituary in a local paper to Mark his passing. There is no word in English to describe this feeling. Had to. ‘Cause I had this dream, she clothed in white, face painted to match. Creepy, but she was sweet, a kiss on my cheek and an offer to help with cooking. And I rarely dream about her, despite our short lived but very close orbit. She hasn’t appeared in an obit since I checked last.

Two years ago I found out a former friend, a best mate, with whom I’d had an epic falling out, hadn’t had any coms for decades, died homeless, a two sentence obituary in a local paper to Mark his passing.

There is no word in English to describe this feeling.

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